I’m sitting next to Hudson who is watching Cars and having a lollipop for breakfast.
That is probably not a “good mom” thing to do.
6 years ago (before I had kids) I would have never allowed such a thing with my hypothetical children. The real children however, are a different story.
I feel like parents are always under a ton of “pressure to raise our kids the “right” way. Those pressures, along with the “I would never___” which we come up with before we have children can really make a parent feel like a total failure.
Well, you know, I’m not a perfect parent. In fact, I don’t think there is such a thing.
Here are some of my ‘bad mom’ confessions:
1. I let them have candy… even for breakfast. Max also eats salads… but a lot less frequently.
2. I let them watch tv in the mornings for as long as they want so I can drink my coffee in peace.
4. Hudson was obsessed with his bottle till he was 3 and still sneaks into our bed at night. We waited until he was ready to move him out of our bed and also to eliminate the bottle. Because of that, we were much later than the pediatrician recommended, but there wasn’t any fight. Confession 4.5, I kinda like snuggling with him.
5. I compare the kids. I do, occasionally, compare who did what when. I know I am not supposed to, and I always regret it because I end up thinking one’s a genius and the other is, well, a poorly tamed feral jungle boy. Neither of which are true. Which leads me to my next one…
6. I treat the kids differently. Because they’re, well, different. Hudson gets away with stuff Max doesn’t, and I did stuff with Max at Hudson’s age that I just don’t think Hudson is ready for. Yup, it’s unfair. No, I don’t think it’s favoritism.
7.Hudson gets away with stuff because he’s cute. He just is, and he just does. Max gets away with things because he’s clever.
8. Work/Life balance takes on a whole new meaning with kids. It’s really tough. Sometimes work gets neglected, but more often, the kids do.
9. I let them stay up late -if they are playing nicely or we’re reading or watching a movie together I push back bedtime, I know we’re supposed to be on a strict bedtime routine, but some things I think are more important.
10. Being a mom, isn’t always spectacular. Sometimes, having kids, well, it sucks. I LOVE my family… but Jeff and I have missed out on a lot of things because we have kids. We’re young parents, and one of the few of our friends with kids, so, we feel left out from time to time. We’ve missed birthday parties and gatherings and all sorts of fun events to watch Cars for the 12,499th time and struggle to hold the kids still so they can get a shirt on for goodness sake. While many of our friends are out, we’re in bed by about 9 on a Friday night due to sheer exhaustion. I love that I’m a mom, and really I love that I became a mom at 23. I wouldn’t trade it. But like most things, occasionally, it sucks. Thankfully, I’m not the only one to feel this way. A friend of mine pointed this out to me a few days ago.
Okay, so I don’t win the perfect parent award this year. I probably won’t next year either. But I’m happy with my little family, and I think the kids are pretty happy too. And if that means we wake up at 6 and watch Cars and eat lollipops… that’s fine with me.
Alright, Max has put the movie on repeat. I suppose I need to draw the line somewhere.
Do you feel pressure to be a “perfect” parent? Or, if you don’t have kids, do you look at other parents and think “If I had kids I’d never…”